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Winning the Heart of the Woman of Your Dreams" by Corey Wayne available from Rakuten Kobo The Married Man Sex Life Primer ebook by Athol Kay . It seems pretty good; but is he going to finish every paragraph by saying the sentence: "Google Corey Wayne - [insert attraction topic here]. Coach Corey Wayne is the best Life Coach on this subject that you will ever encounter. That's right, he is NOT a pickup artist, but a Life Coach!.
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These are principles that I have learned from numerous sources and applied in my own life. I know they work and in the following pages you will find the truth to finally understanding women.
The purpose of my life is to help others grow and become more. It sucks. I did not enjoy my childhood very much. By understanding this, you can at least be in a relationship with someone that you absolutely love, treasure, and adore. They can help you to understand the type of man that you are totally capable of becoming and even become that man.
At the same time, you inspire and help her grow into everything she is capable of becoming as a woman. Wayne Dyer. I have done all the hard work and spent many years of heartache and heartbreak to learn and understand this knowledge.
I teach what works, not theory. If you choose to have faith and apply what you learn here, you will become attuned and will be able to read exactly what is going on with your lady emotionally at every moment and completely understand what she needs. You are what you do repeatedly. You will be able to help your friends and family overcome their relationship struggles as well.
However, I have found that very few. Enjoy the knowledge that appears in the following pages, and I want you to know I have immense love, respect, and care for you and your desire to have the relationship of your dreams.
I was once searching like you are now. I wanted to find the answer. I found a lot of answers from a lot of different sources and have put down in these pages the best of the information that I personally use.
It is important for you to understand that you should not read this book and then go out and settle down with the first woman you meet. This book is about finding the type of woman you feel you deserve to be with. Those feelings may change and evolve over time, as you change and evolve as a person.
You may find the absolute perfect woman for you on day one, and then six months later realize that there are subtle differences you would make that would create an even better situation for you. You will have been on the other side and experienced it. I want you to have someone who knocks your socks off! Besides, that is your birthright as a child of the Creator. I will focus on giving you tools for lasting change, so you can permanently undo your not-so-desirable habits and bring out the.
The great news is that you already have this natural talent and ability inside. I have dated many beautiful women. In my earlier years I said and did all the wrong things that we men tend to do. In my later years of dating, I finally got it right. So how did I go from clueless wonder to this point of understanding? There was one woman, my missing link, if you will, that opened my eyes to understanding women. But it was this particular woman that helped me put it all together. I mentioned this story in the introduction, but I wanted to go over it again to show how this particular relationship actually helped to evolve my understanding of women.
In my earlier years of dating, somewhere around , I met this woman. She had dark hair, dark eyes, nice skin, and she was tiny.
She told me straight out: We had gone to high school together, but she had been a year behind me. She walked up and I was just stunned. Her beauty left me breathless. I was having some beers with my buddy Sean, and he introduced us. I could tell she was interested by the way she was looking at me. I could feel that she was really attracted to me. That was my first awareness of understanding. There had been several times in my life where I had thought a woman was attracted to me, and then could never get any further than her phone number.
This was blatant and in. I could FEEL her attraction. There was no doubt in my mind that this woman had a high level of attraction. I was still pretty clueless back then, though. The night went on and we went our separate ways. When I woke up the next day, the horrible feeling dawned on me: However, she had told me where she worked.
I took a chance and called her at work and basically said: Hi, this is Corey. She told me she was really busy, but asked me to give her my number and she would call me back the next day. Deep down, I feared she would never call back like all the others. I gave her my number, and I was just so in awe. I actually had butterflies in my stomach.
This was the first time I had met a girl that I really liked that was really into me. She called me the next day, and I talked to her for at least an hour and a half on the phone.
While we talked, she told me things such as she had just split up with her boyfriend, and then went on to volunteer all this other information about herself. She was asking me all these questions like: I was kind of an open book. However, she did most of the talking, which was exactly the right thing to do. I just let her talk, and I listened.
I have found that women love to talk, men just need to learn how to listen. Believe me, gentlemen, there is a right and a wrong way to the art of listening that we will be covering later in the book.
Finally she asked: I jumped right on that and set a date. That was another thing I did right without even realizing it: I made a firm commitment for a date, and then left it at that. So, she showed up for lunch that day wearing these really short shorts. She had an unbelievable body with a nice tan, and she was breathtaking — absolutely drop dead gorgeous. I was working construction at the time. I was still going to school for construction management, and I was a project engineer at the job site office.
I was in the back and I heard the door open and she walked in. The guys called out from the front, saying: When I walked out, the guys had been having a meeting at the conference table and they were just staring at her.
It felt so good, because she was obviously there to go out with me. That was another thing I did right. I knew she was there for me and took pride in it. They were jealous of me being with her, but they were enjoying what they were seeing. In that regard, I was in a place of strength and confidence. A woman definitely takes notice of little things like that.
We went up the street and had a great lunch. Again, she did most of the talking, which was the right thing. She was very aggressive. With hindsight, I realize now that she was pursuing me because I did so little of the talking.
I was a bit of a mystery to her. In reality, I was an open book and not sure. She just had not caught onto that yet. This is great. Her dad was very wealthy, and he owned a night club in Fort Lauderdale. One night she invited me there. I went with another friend of mine. It was a very busy club. She had all these guys coming up to her and hugging her, and she seemed to know everybody there.
She kept walking away and talking, and all these people kept grabbing her to talk. Finally, my friend said: I was pretty bummed out, but agreed. The next morning she called me and asked: What happened to you last night? I looked everywhere for you. I held the phone away, thinking: I found out by accident that I had done the right thing, and I had just walked away. Remove yours. If a woman is too sure of you, if she thinks she can walk all over you, her attraction drops.
I was thinking about you. Think of dating like playing poker. You simply want to hold your cards close to your vest so she reveals her cards first. When women are uncertain or unclear of your interest, they will put themselves into your orbit by contacting you.
When a woman starts chasing you by initiating contact first, usually after the 2nd or 3rd date on average , it causes her to start chasing you more and more.
Once a woman feels comfortable enough, she will start calling you more and more as the weeks go by, assuming you keep doing more things right than wrong. I showed that I could walk away from her at any time. It baffled me at the time. This went on for another two or three weeks and we went out a couple more times.
I never did kiss her. How do you know when a woman is open to being kissed? As you are talking and you are sitting close, her knee may be touching yours, she may be touching your arm or body, she may be leaning toward you, standing so close that her body is bumping yours, etc. Do it! If you wait and hesitate too long, she will lose attraction and assume you are not worthy.
If you hesitate, you will masturbate. Eventually, she stopped calling. It got to the point where I called her and left a message. I was at work. She had always paged me before. The bottom line was that I was so easy and so available, that she saw me as weak and thought she could basically have her way with me.
She would invite me to come out, and I would meet her. I had no center. Eventually she saw that and then she just blew me off. A guy who is good looking can get away on his looks for the first few dates. That was what happened with me. It was about six months later when I met the woman who would become my ex-wife. I remember being out on a date at the same bar where I had met the other woman.
My ex-wife was all over me, and I remember seeing the other woman out of the corner of my eye, just staring at the two of us together. Once again, I was confused, thinking: I kept thinking: What gives? When you are with a woman and she knows or assumes you are dating other women, just make her feel a little more special than the other girls you.
Keep it simple, charming, playful and little vague. Let her fill in the blanks in her mind. It is all about the energy and the confidence the guy exudes. When they are single, no one wants to date them. Women have this radar. When a woman sees a guy with a woman, especially another beautiful woman, she wonders: Women are very competitive in that respect. I figured: The advice they gave me seemed sound, and it meshed with what I had always thought about women. This sometimes pisses women off, but the truth is, the average woman does not understand what attracts them to one guy vs.
What they say they want in a man is not what they actually date and stay with. Most women, when you bring your problems about understanding another woman to them, will try to make you feel better about what is going on.
It is just like when you try to date a woman, she is not going to tell you straight out: A woman friend is not going to burst your ego and tell you: Hey, it sounds as though. Instead, they will give you rationalizations: Maybe she is just coming out of a bad relationship. Maybe she just likes you too much and is afraid of getting into something right now. Women are emotional beings and will always think about how what they say is going to make you feel.
So take their advice with a grain of salt. Why do women, even our female friends, do this to us? Is there something wrong with me? They would rather try to soothe it over and nudge you gently in another direction, rather than being straight up about their suspicions and hurt you. Women are all about emotions and emotional reactions. Men are more straightforward. They would rather have simple, non-emotionally clouded answers. The trouble is that our women friends do nothing more than cloud the issue rather than setting us straight.
But they also want to be engaged in the chase. Dating is a full experience of emotions for them. They want to feel as though they have earned your love, and that you have earned theirs. Little girls tend to go to their fathers and sit in their laps for love and reassurance. He is her rock. Her unmovable Mountain that is always there and always accepts and loves her unconditionally.
He makes her feel safe and comfortable. I remember a trip to the beach I took one time with a former girlfriend, her 7-year-old daughter and some family. During the day, we were in the pool because it was hot. He was constantly disappointing her. I remember the sad look on her face after her father would tell her he was not going to be seeing her when she wanted to see him.
It made her feel like he did not love her. However, I was the father figure that took his place when he was not around, which was most of the time. It was more like she would fall into my arms so I would grab her and embrace her.
She got in and out of the pool dozens of times to do this. She never tired of it.
I remember another time when I was picking up her daughter to take her for the day to Disney World, one of her favorite places. As I was driving to pick her up, she would call me to see where I was and how close I was. Wait there! She jumped into my arms and I knelt down to catch her. I picked her up for a big hug and kiss.
I loved that little munchkin, and still do today, even. Time flies! She totally opened my heart and changed my life. Kids are our greatest teachers. The important thing to understand about the love and relationship dynamic between little girls and their fathers, and why it causes women to chase the men they desire, is they both crave the unconditional love and masculine presence of the men they love or care about. When a woman contacts you by telephone, text, e-mail, instant message, etc.
When women become unsure of where they stand with you or when they miss you, they contact you so you can make it easy for them to get the love and reassurance they are seeking. So if a woman contacts you, you must assume it is because she wants you physically, emotionally, spiritually and mentally. She wants to be penetrated by you and your love. Obviously, little girls grow up and have adult relationships with the men they love. However, the dynamic of how women go about getting this love is similar to how they seek love and support from their fathers.
When a woman contacts you, she wants you in some way. If you really love and care about her, you will facilitate getting together. It does not matter what you say, what you promise in the future or what you did for them last week. When women do not feel that you love them, or love them enough, they will feel hurt and often become bitchy and resentful.
Beware Of The Bitchy Woman. Think about what this means. Women will chase you if you give them the space to miss you by not chasing them. Your inaction will cause them to take some action to get confirmation that you care and desire them. In essence, all you really have to do is simply say yes to their advances.
Men who chase women get rejected because the very act of chasing a woman is a submissive feminine quality. Plus, it simply will not feel right to a woman if you chase her.
If you do, she will become flakey, unsure of things, confused, etc. One of the biggest booming industries in the publishing world that caters to women is the romance novel. They sell millions of these books to women all over the world.
You will find that even the most intelligent of women, ones that proclaim these books to be nothing more than drivel, have read one or two of these books at one time or another in their lives. What is the big draw? Most of your romance novels have a very basic formula to them. You can even go to the manuscript submission pages for the publishing houses and find what that formula is: Boy meets girl.
Boy usually treats girl with indifference. Girl finds boy contemptible, yet cannot seem to stay away from him. Girl and boy fight the growing attraction. Boy ends up with girl in a very romantic ending. When you ask a woman what she wants, what she says she wants and what she actually emotionally responds to are two different things.
When you ask a woman what she wants in a guy, she will usually respond with something like: Well, I want a man that wines me, dines.
When you treat her that way, she blows you off and for some reason goes out with a guy who does none of those things for her. So what is it that attracts her to the bad boy and causes her to blow off the nice guy? She can completely have her way with him. He acts more like a woman than a man. Emotionally, that does not make her feel safe or that he could actually protect her. It says to her that he is untrustworthy, and that basically he will do or say anything just to make her happy.
That is not what a woman wants. A woman wants someone who is a partner, someone who can take the direction in the relationship. An alpha male is a leader. Whether you have just met, or you have been together in a year relationship, you have to know what you want.
Instead of saying: Basically, what that tells a woman is: The more beautiful a woman is — the more guys she has that act that way. She wants a guy that is going to stand out. She wants him to be more of a man than she is. The more beautiful woman she is, the. If she goes out on an average weekend, she might give her phone number out to 10 or 12 different guys. Predictably, what happens is that 9 or 10 of those guys are going to call her the very next day and ask her to go out on a date.
From that point, she can basically decide which ones she wants to go out with, or if she wants to go out with any of them at all. Your goal is to be different. There are some simple, subtle things that you need to learn about raising her attraction level, approaching her properly, asking for her number and setting definite dates with confidence. They are pursuing them, and really want to be with them. I will be going into that more in depth later in the book. One of the other things that we will cover is once you are dating and starting to get serious about a woman, what to do to maintain her level of attraction.
I can just kick back and drink my beers and just sit in front of the TV all weekend and eat chips and pizza. This is not the case. The courtship continues. It will be on-going your entire life. It never ends. A lot of guys have had their girlfriend just up and leave them, or their wife has just up and left them after 10 years, and they say: What the hell happened?
I thought everything was great. They just own their masculinity, they own their strength, and they own their core, purpose, and direction in life. They are naturally confident with women, because they grew up in a very loving household, or they have learned for themselves what it takes. I have a few close friends who are naturally good with women. One of them is one of my best friends from high school. They have three beautiful children together. His wife looks hot and still takes care of herself.
Their attitude is… why fight? They both came from good loving families, so things were easy for them. He is so charming and awesome at charming banter. They still have a great sex life. He did the same thing with his first wife that I did with my first wife. He settled. He got married at 21 and right when he was about to tell her he was leaving her a few months later because he made a mistake, she revealed she was pregnant. Twelve years and two kids later he finally got the courage to leave.
His current wife of 40 plus years was only 18 when they met. He was They have two kids and are now grandparents. He taught me a lot about women! His wife loves the shit out of him. When you come to your friends to talk about a woman and what is going on in your relationship, their first instinct is to give you advice.
Ask yourself this question first: What kind of a relationship does my friend have? Does she seem happy in the relationship? Is she loving and affectionate to him? Is he ignoring her while she goes about and does her own thing? What is her interest level in your friend?
If the answer is yes, then maybe your friends have a clue. If the answer is no, as it usually will be, then why on earth would you want to take their advice for your own relationship? Face the facts.
If they do not have relationships that you. The number of healthy relationships out there, while increasing due to some of the awareness being brought to the concept, is still pretty low. I once believed I had great parents. In retrospect, I realize that there was no real love shown between them.
There was never an: I love you exchanged that I ever witnessed. Why should that be such a big deal? When there is no love shown between the parents, it creates insecurity in their children.
In my case, when I went out into the dating world, I was shy and insecure. I felt unloved and unlovable.
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When children grow up around parents that do not show love to each other, children in turn perpetuate that in their own relationships in the future. Is that the type of relationship that you want for your children? The same kind of loveless, trapped relationship you may be in now? One you may have been exposed to by your own parents? Parents stay together for years without showing the proper example of a loving, healthy relationship to their children.
This in turn makes the kids think: They become emotionally and mentally conditioned and anchored into feeling like dysfunctional relationships are normal. If the parents had worked to maintain a healthy relationship, or separated into other, healthier relationships, the kids might have had a clue by the time they reached their own teenage dating years. I had one friend who was married to a girl that he got pregnant at the age of 16 or Over the years, what may have seemed like love at first, turned into a marriage solely for the sake of the children.
He began to have an affair. She started gaining weight — a lot of weight. She was seeking her happiness in food and using it to fill her up with that feel good sensation she was missing in her marriage. At a wedding for a mutual friend, both the husband and wife shot one negative barb after another at each other.
Both of their boys were extremely obese, very unhappy, and had very low self-esteem. They will probably end up seeking out the same type of relationships for themselves, never knowing that there can be better for them.
They will end up perpetuating the pain for another generation. Parents may think they are staying together for the sake of the children, but kids need to see parents in happy, loving, supportive relationships. The choices you make in your relationship life can certainly have an impact on the other people around you, especially the kids. There is also the impact on yourself to consider, as well as the happiness of the other person in the relationship.
I have already said it before - if you are not growing together in a direction, then maybe you need to consider going your separate ways, so that you can continue to grow.
The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the quality of the people you consistently spend your time with. The ultimate impact in a relationship that involves children is how they carry their own relationship knowledge forward with them, into the next generation. Your legacy to your children should be learning.
Your example is what sets the way for them to find the same kind of love in their lives in the future. Ultimately, the only way to see healthier relationships around us is to be a part of building our own happiness and letting it follow forward through the next generation.
It is so important that people learn the information I have to offer. All you have to do is go to a mall, to a public event, or to dinner, and just look around at the other couples.
Half of them are sort of staring into space, and they are not talking. They are just kind of present. They are hanging out as roommates. There is nothing there in the relationship. A man should learn to take the direction in the relationship. It is funny when you go to the malls, and you can tell who wears the pants in the relationship.
You usually see the woman walking about 5, sometimes 10 feet in front of the man and the kids. The husband is walking as though being led by the nose, going along with whatever she wants. She is in total control of the relationship. The subtle differences that make the difference in attracting women. I will take you through the process of understanding, step-by-simple- step. This book was designed to give you the answers to the questions you have about women regarding pickup techniques, dating skills, relationship skills, communication, attraction, sex, etc.
Think of this book as a coaching manual that gives you the baseline knowledge of how to interact with women successfully.
Throughout the book I will give you search terms you can Google that will bring up specific articles and YouTube videos on my website that go into more detail of the essential skills, techniques and knowledge related to specific parts of this book.
I have analyzed and diagnosed their emails and inserted my comments in them so you can learn from where they went wrong. I will take you from your initial meeting to making love for the first time. This book will help to lift the cloudy haze that surrounds the mysteries of the pickup, dating and relationship world, understanding women, and will give you clear insight into achieving your goals.
I will explain why women fall for the jerks and blow off the nice guys. You will learn that women tend to be driven by emotion and connection, instead of logic and reason like men are.
Feminine energy is about opening up to receive love, bonding, connection, etc. Women are physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually designed to receive a man. You can also use what I teach to meet and date lots of different women until you figure out what you really want.
The best is yet to come. I will also teach you, once you land Mrs. Right, how to keep her madly in love with you so that you do live happily ever after. In this book you will learn things that many women do not even understand about themselves. Why do women say they want one thing and then respond to another? Most important of all, I will teach you how to win the heart of the beautiful woman of your dreams.
That is not a misprint. If you allow yourself to take my guidance and are willing to learn, I will give you the skills and tools to help you finally understand women and have the relationship of your dreams.
The wonderful truth is that if you treat a woman properly and allow her to come to you at her own pace with minimal and simple actions on your part, she will do most of the chasing, calling, texting and pursuing! Ironically, the more you focus on, and passionately pursue, your purpose in life, the more attractive women will find you in general.
A man pursuing a purpose he has a burning desire to accomplish gives off a much happier, peaceful, relaxed, successful, inviting, confident and positive vibe than a guy who hates his job, his life and his circumstances.
You can be confident that you will have little or no competition when you finally target the woman of your desires, especially when you can notice and see first hand with your own eyes and ears how badly the average guy is blowing it with women. If you are single, there is an amazingly beautiful woman out there, desperate to meet the man you really are on the inside.
I will teach you how to become balanced, centered, and confident with women, and to no longer be intimidated by them, even the beautiful ones. You will learn that you MUST treat all women the same. They put women on a pedestal and treat them like a celebrity instead of a real human being.
Women have no choice but to agree with their bad behavior and reject them. Some of the things I will teach you in order to become successful with women may seem the opposite of what you think you should do. If you want to meet and own the heart of the woman of your dreams, or get your wife to fall back in love with you, then this book is the key to that kingdom.
These principles apply to women everywhere in the world, regardless of their location or culture. I coach men from all over the world and from some of the most conservative societies. Women and men respond emotionally to what they respond to, no matter where they live or what their cultural background is. Becoming successful with women starts before you ever even meet a woman that you want to date.
You first need to learn how to attract the right woman into your life. You want to take measured, consistent steps with women, practice what I teach and take risks based upon your own comfort level. You can't steal second base and keep your foot on first. Then comes the next step — how long after you get her information should you wait to call? Do you call her the next day? Do you wait a week? Do you call her in two days? Make a date on the spot? What do you do? My goal with the techniques and strategies I teach is to give you plenty of tools for your pickup, dating and relationship toolbox.
It is HOW you say things rather than what you say that matters. The simple principle that all this is based upon is that when women have a high level of attraction, they help you.
In other words, if you just met a woman and you want to ask her out on a date, she is going to help you get to her front door or meet up for a date. She will make it easy for you. The key is to know when to walk away and when to take action. Guys who fail with women tend to chase and pursue too much to the point of appearing like a stalker when they sense a woman pulling away. Unfortunately, all that happens is that they make the girl go away and start ignoring them.
The lower her level of attraction is, the harder it is going to be to get to her front door or meet up for a date, if at all.
So throughout this process of going back to the beginning and re-learning how to approach women, you will be learning what to say, how to say it, and you will know how to respond to her questions and her tests. Make no mistake — all women test.
They test because they want to know what it is that you are made of.
They want to know that if they push you or lean on you, that you are not going to fall over and cave in to what they want. A man is supposed to be the leader and gently lead the interaction to where he wants it to go. Ultimately, a man and a woman who like each other eventually end up having sex. That is after all, the object of seduction. The purpose of a date is to create a fun filled, romantic opportunity for sex to happen. Biologically, men and women are driven to mate with the most dominant member of the opposite sex.
Attractive and healthy bodies are indicative of people with strong genes who will produce strong offspring that can survive to adulthood and reproduce.
I will teach you the behaviors, body language, physiology and words of a dominant male, so you can start succeeding with women like never before. On my website, UnderstandingRelationships. I critique their game by commenting on what they are doing right, what they are doing wrong and what they need to do in the future to improve.
We need to take a break. This book is for those guys that have met a woman and could not ever seem to get to her front porch or meet her for a first date. It is for those guys that have maybe met a woman, went out on a first date and thought everything was going great, but then cannot seem to ever get her on the phone again.
This book is also for guys that are married. I used to be one of those guys. Let me share My Story: Growing up, I remember having a lot of crushes on girls, but never getting the ones I wanted. When I tried to get the ones I wanted, my heart was usually stomped on.
In high school, I would write letters to girls I liked or get my friends to ask them out for me. I was so scared of rejection I could barely talk to the ones I was really interested in. I felt completely inadequate around women in general. I did not know it at the time, but when a guy holds back, because he does not know what to say, is fearful or simply intimidated by women, flirting and talking with women becomes awkward and the women can feel it; this leads to rejection.
My favorite approach back then? I decided to take the friendship route to their heart. I invested months in this process, and when I could no longer take it, I would tell them how I really felt.
For some strange reason, they still wanted to just be friends. At the time, I did not get it. Let me rephrase that: I did not have a clue! My senior high school prom was interesting.
I had a crush on a girl in my class who had a boyfriend. In my infinite wisdom, I tried to reason with her and convince her to say yes. I had yet to learn that women are emotional beings and like 12 Part I: In the Beginning to connect and create rapport via conversation, similar experiences and emotions. Guys tend to be logic and reason driven.
My assurances that we would get to know each other at prom and that I had a lot of popular friends did not seem to sway her. I could not understand her logic. So why did she not just come right out and say that? Back to prom: A friend of a friend set me up with yet another friend as a blind prom date.
Well, once we pulled up in the limo to pick her up, I realized she was much taller than I was. She was a volleyball player and a very nice girl, just like her friend said she was. We had fun together. The next morning I realized why she set me up with her very tall friend. She had ulterior motives. Carl had asked me to ask one of the cheerleaders that was a friend of mine to prom for him. She said: No thanks. He was the type of friend that would do anything for anyone.
He was a great guy, but unfortunately he knew as much about women as I did, which was nothing. The girl that went with Carl only wanted someone to go with; she had no real interest in him. Carl promptly decided to fall in love with her. Once we were all back at the hotel, Carl got pretty upset when he tried to make his move and got rejected. Our senior class had the whole floor of the hotel. You can imagine what was going on with all those unsupervised drunk teenagers. Party like a rock star!
The next morning, I woke up to my feet being rubbed by the friend that had set me up with my prom date. She was dating another friend of mine and apparently had a crush on me. I had a crush on someone else who had a boyfriend. I seemed to always want a girl that was unavailable or had no interest in me. I figured, over time she would fall for me. If I could just be a nice enough guy, then she would like me.
It never worked. Nice guys always seem to finish last. Why is that? I kept trying to figure women out. I became better at approaching them with time, but back then I used alcohol to overcome my insecurities. In the next few paragraphs, I have included brief stories of the ones I felt were turning points in my life or when I learned a great deal more that helped to lift the cloudy veil from my understanding of women. When I was 24, I met a girl that was a friend of one of my best buddies.
I was instantly enamored with her and better yet, she really seemed to like me. I got her number and called her at work, and she said she would call me back later. The next day, she actually did call me back.
I was stunned. I had a live one! She did a lot of the talking. I just kept asking questions, because I wanted to know 14 Part I: In the Beginning everything about her. She was fascinating to me! She asked me if I wanted to go to lunch, and I told her I would have to check my schedule and get back to her. I am kidding. I made plans right there on the spot.What the hell happened?
I found a lot of answers from a lot of different sources and have put down in these pages the best of the information that I personally use. She had all these guys coming up to her and hugging her, and she seemed to know everybody there. The more beautiful a woman is — the more guys she has that act that way.
She just seemed so happy to be there with me. She asked me if I wanted to go to lunch, and I told her I would have to check my schedule and get back to her.